Comments on: Does a Law on Human Relationship Attraction Exist?

By: deaddolly

deaddolly — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:46:59 +0000

i think it comes along, but ppl are very lucky when it lasts forever.

you’re very smart to know the difference at so young an age.

i’ve never been in real ‘love’. can’t say i missed out and am no longer interested.
I found out my mom never loved my dad after 30 some years of marriage — that was really sad, for them both.
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By: ron-johns *

ron-johns * — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:44:59 +0000

I am waiting for the day and the man that I will share true love with. I totally understand the "lust" and "infatuation" points. There is a difference. I can't wait to experience real love with someone. Someone who I will love unconditionally and with every inch of my heart, and who will love me the same. So to answer your question yes, of course, love does exist... but LOVE IS PATIENT.
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By: Nancy D - soon to be Nancy G

Nancy D - soon to be Nancy G — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:42:59 +0000

True love exists. I believe in the importance of love and what it brings to my life. Of course, love begins with infatuation, but it deepens and becomes a desire to share all of your life, the good, the mundane and of course, life’s pains with that person first and foremost.

What makes it different from a best friend is that desire to be with them no matter what. Passion plays a role in love of course, because a relationship that is devoid of passion will die.

In my relationship, I feel a need to share with him my successes as well as my failures. He is the first to know my exam scores, and I am the first to know when he has a good or bad day. Love is what shelters us in our times of crisis, and can make us even happier when things are going well.

The difference between love and infatuation to me is commitment. Love leads you to that next level – engagement, marriage whatever. Whereas with mere infatuation, if one party wants the relationship to deepen and the other does not, that spells the unfortunate end of that relationship.
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By: Dr weasel

Dr weasel — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:40:59 +0000

This is one of those questions that can take a lifetime to fully explore.
Love is felt by children for their mothers. It is the same love that lovers feel for each other as love is a spiritual connection with another.
Inside every adult, is the same child that once roamed the playground. That same spirit that loved having friends for the way it make them feel, and protected that with fierce loyalty because they were as friends, connected for life. Bonded together with love. two boys who played ball in the park now race cars or go fishing as old men.
Between a man and a woman in marriage, that bond goes deeper that any other due to the depth of the connection. That one partner who you trust inside you with the most delicate parts of your mind and soul. That person you chose to make a home with. This connection is more complex, but The love is still the same thing, just stronger.
Love does not exclusively exist in the category of emotion as infatuation does. Love is also a virtue, being a gift and a decision of giving. Love for your nation is love given and not always received. Love for your children is not for you but for them. It is a giving thing.
Infatuation is a getting thing. Love does not seek for itself.
Love does exist. Without it Humanity would have no hope at all. Every virtue must contain it to be a virtue. Connection cannot be had without it. Being disconnected makes it too easy to judge others and make negative and distructive comments. bad for love. Bad for mankind. marraiges collaps when they become disconnected. When people step away from ethical behaviour they disconnect from others.
Dangerous thing that. Causes wars and hurts and all form of disease.
every friend you have lost leaves a hole. The longer you walked with them, the bigger the hole. Your Lifes love could be anyone who you can share your values, honor your trust and is willing to connect on a deep level. Walking together in that love makes it stronger.
Marraige is a commiittment we make to eachother and society to be with eachother like their own flesh. This makes a protective circle called a family where children are safe to be raised. It keeps the participants safe from diseases by committing to each other and no others. Mairraige is a protecive agreement made before society and to each other. It does not have anything to do with love. If you dont bring it with you, it won’t be there.
A note on romantic love, We share a variety of romantic ideas with our friends. Every thing from enjoying nature or sports or games and hobbies to life long passions like our peculiar fields of interest like space exploration or archeology or such. But one passion we share only with our chosen life partner. That passion shared between lovers is so delicate and deep and dangerous that we must choose carefully only one freind. What grows from this is as sacred as our own souls. It has the ability to scar us in irreperable ways. We know this intrinsicly, so many people try to do this half way to keep from investing themselves too much, lest they die. Silly really, it never works. You are either in all the way or you are not. If you are not, then it never happens. And Lord help those who do.
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By: ¿Alex?

¿Alex? — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:38:59 +0000

Same position as you are.
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By: Adam

Adam — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:36:59 +0000

First of all, I think there’s different kinds of love. There’s friendship love and I know that’s not really what your talking about but I swear I’m going to make a point here haha. and I think most people experience friendship love pretty quickly. I know I love my best friend very much (My best friend is a girl so I swear that’s not weird of me to say). But, I think that love when it’s couple love has to be a combination of friendship love and romantic love. Cause basically, in my opinion, friendship love is couple love without the sexualness and things like that. The thing that makes that complicated is that it has to be felt by both people.

If someone is only sexually attracted to someone then it will always be only an infatuation. But, if they have that right combination of loving them sexually and loving them on the inside too then it could possibly turn into love. Not definitely turn into love, but definitely has a higher probability.

I definitely do think true love exists. I don’t know, I may be an idealist but I really think (and hope) that I will find that one true girl that I love. I think that one day I will find that one girl who I really connect to emotionally and sexually. Although, even though I said before someone does have to find another person sexually appealing, for me, I don’t think that’s the most important thing by any stretch of the imagination. Although I think every person has to find the person they love somewhat attractive, I think connecting to someone emotionally is way more important and pretty much the most important thing in a relationship.

Good question!
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By: Ayra Judelle

Ayra Judelle — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:34:59 +0000

Yes. Love exists.

* Just remember:
If you are attracted to the opposite sex for only 4 months, it is only infatuation. Then if takes years, it is love. (((:
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By: ►ßяטсє ℓәә◄

►ßяטсє ℓәә◄ — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:32:59 +0000

Love exists, but sometimes people get so possessive that their love gets short lived

Before marriage or relationship, they liked whatever each other had but they get so insecure and possessive that they start to doubt each others integrity

So flexibility in relationship is very important
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By: Darth

Darth — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:30:59 +0000

Yes, it exists. I have been married to My Wife for 18 years now. I’ll love her till the stars burn out, I’d die for her.

Love is a horribly complicated thing to explain. It can be so many different things to everyone, and everyone’s emotions work differently. Sexual attraction is part but definitely not all of it. It’s certainly not the only reason I love My Wife, I also love her for her personality, and just for all of what she is. In the beginning a romantic relationship might be based on chemistry, attraction, and as You say flattery but if it lasts a long time it grows into way more that that, it grows into two people becoming spiritually one.

Love for Your Parent, siblings, children, family is more based on things like loyalty, long association, and mutual kindness and support.

Hope My meandering ramblings were of some small help.
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By: Trilliana

Trilliana — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:28:59 +0000

Hi,
Usually, infatuation is temporary and love is as permanent as a human can make it. There is nothing wrong with a relationship starting out as infatuation because this is what keeps the relationship interesting. However, infatuation wears off when those things that grow into love start manifesting. Things like loyalty, respect, commitment, etc. A person who is simply infatuated will shy away from those. Whereas, a person who is in love will thrive on them. True love is when both people commit to being loyal, respectful, grateful for and to one another. They don’t take each other for granted, they keep the element of surprise/unexpected alive, they talk about their feelings honestly, they do things for/anticipate each other’s needs and they feel infatuated with each other. When you have all these things in a relationship, sex will happen naturally. When you are merely "in love" you will probably be in the infatuated stage, when you are "loved," you will know it! Best Wishes!
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Experience.