but honestly, no one is that impressionable that they’re going to think "every man is like edward. i must be clumsy to get edward. i must worship my boyfriend. blah blah blah"

i think the reviewy person might have taken it a little far.
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I haven’t seen Twilight, but I see where the author’s getting it. She’s complaining that the heroine isn’t much of a heroine at all. Her interpretation (meaning it’s solely her own, just as you have your own opinion) is that Bella is in a completely one-sided relationship, where she loves Edward to the point of worshipping him, and Edward likes her well enough to merely protect her from all the danger the relationship brings. Bella isn’t very capable of solving her own problems because Edward protects her from all of them. This, to the author, makes her weak.

You have to consider that we’re living in a society where being vulnerable and "weak" is not acceptable for a female – girls should be strong and capable, to the point of where we shouldn’t need anyone else to protect us from ANYTHING. The author evidently shares in this view quite strongly. I DO agree with her saying that girls shouldn’t be taught to think that they need protecting all the time – OR that they should lessen the importance of their dreams, like college, for the sake of their boyfriend.

The author isn’t saying that girls should "hate life" at all. I think you’re completely misinterpreting the review, and blowing it way out of context. I’m not agreeing or disagreeing with the author, but rather encouraging you to look at what she’s REALLY saying. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and interpretations.
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Martha Brockenbrough Explains Why ‘Twilight’ Sucks

My 13-year-old cousin warned me: "The amounts of pain that can be inflicted on those who insult Edward are better left unspoken."

I’m going to brave that pain and say it anyway: Edward is a complete prig.

It’s not just that he sneaks into Bella’s room to watch her sleep — that’s more stalker than prissy, anyway. It’s also not just that he drives a Volvo, the car of choice for priggish drivers who obsess about side airbag safety.

Nor is it that his skin sparkles like gems in the sunlight. However gag-worthy this might be, he can’t help it if he has pores that Madonna, Nicole Kidman and other alabaster celebrities would envy.

For me, the last straw really is that he is more obsessed about wedding planning than any groom should be. That makes him a terrible role model for teen girls, who will grow up to face real-life mates who don’t know the difference between cummerbunds and canapés, and who will also make rude faces when asked for an opinion on either.

Seriously, though, there’s a dark side to priggishness, and that’s condescension. Bella and Edward aren’t equals. Edward knows it — he’s stronger, his senses are sharper and he’s nearly immortal. He constantly has to protect Bella. He even leaves her temporarily to do just that. Bella, meanwhile, settles for a lesser college so she can be with her boyfriend. Augh!

So what does that tell our teen girls to crave? A relationship with someone they worship, rather than someone they can work with through the various challenges of life?

However much I enjoyed the books — and I read every one, twice — that’s my fundamental concern with them as a parent. Bella constantly needs rescuing and protection. Her vulnerability fuels her desirability, for it’s not just a vampire who wants her. A werewolf does, too.

This is where it’s worth making a comparison to "Harry Potter." Harry solved his own problems. When he needed rescuing, his friends — who had complementary talents and courage-quotients — came to his aid.

Bella doesn’t really have friends, at least not among her peers. She hangs out with werewolves and vampires, any one of whom could eat (or drink) her for lunch.

She’s as far from being a kick-ass heroine as she can get. She’s clumsy and weak. Yes, she has her attractions. She’s a devoted daughter who never complains about all the cooking she has to do for her hapless dad.

But girls would be much better off following in Hermione’s footsteps. Now there was a girl who could cast a spell, throw a punch, and catch the eye of an international Quidditch star (only to lose interest because he wasn’t intellectual enough).

I’m not arguing that every book needs to be the equivalent of a plate of nourishing, raw spinach. I like a cream puff as much as the next person, and possibly even more. We just need to make sure our daughters aren’t thinking cream puffs are the best life has to offer. They’re the stars of their own life story, and waiting for a handsome guy to bite their necks sounds to me like a tragedy in the making.

Its things like these that make me angry! Why do you have to ruin girls fun, they like to read about handsome man rescuing his damsel and distress well let them! Its like saying dont watch Cinderella mice cant make dress and a prince wont ever love you, and sure we know that they wont but we still love to read about and watch it gives us enthuisiasm and joy and makes us think theyre is a man out there for everygirl whitch there is. And not all men like to make rude remarks and shrug of your oppinions some men are the typical Edward Cullen. So what do i say read it watch sure the effects are cheesy but they worked with what they had and it is incredible romantic and wonderful. So screw you go on living the way you do thinking life will never be anything but crap and ruining everyone elses emotions and hopes.

Live on Twilight!
oh and i want to add 1 more thing stephanie is telling us we dont have to be beautiful and completely into ourselves to have some amazing guy love us, we can be we want and thats all we should be we shouldnt have to hit people(hermonie) or get tons of surgery or commit ourselves into watching gossip girl. There are men like Edward who do love like he does and anyone that say no to that well i wish you luck because in the next couple of years you will be missing out on a great life because that is what comes in the package of letting ouselves truly believe we are beautiful.