Comments on: Dating Advice Tip: Three Ways to Date on a Budget

By: no it 2

no it 2 — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:58:59 +0000

When after years of smoking pot your head has clear path for thinking. Mostly some where a long the way some convinced him that would never amount any thing. How he sees what can be accomplished once his goals where set on a clear road of thinking. Everything he wants is coming thru for him convince him to slow down just a bit so that he is not so over whelmed by his success. Outline a plan on paper in the order of the most important to the least important and time the period of how long you want accomplish them
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By: airikag@rocketmail.com

airikag@rocketmail.com — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:56:59 +0000

If he doesn’t feel ready then he shouldn’t do it. That sounds like ALOT of crap. Marriage, kids, business, house!!! STOP!! Your going to make a huge mistake. One thing at a time… One step at a time. You have to think about your current situation. What is going to be difficult now, but make things easier in your future. Any one would feel anxiety from this. Should you marry and rent for a while, then save for a business?? If I were you! I would tell him to go on with his plans that he had before you came into the picture and that you aren’t going any where. If you wait until his business is booming and you have your house then have kids, its going to be much healthier for every one. Don’t rush things. Marriage is a piece of paper, a career lasts forever. You guys don’t need to load all of this at once. I would advice him to go back to work, save for your house, get settled in your house, start the business and then have the kids. IF you do it all at once, imagine what hes going to come home to every day. A wife, a crying baby, a mortgage, and trying to keep a business alive. That has disaster written all over it!!! Timing is essential..
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P.S. To the guy above me… your up at 230 in the morning on yahoo answers… lmao…. make fun of your self for not having a life. I work graveyard, bwahaa ha ha

By: Nick C

Nick C — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:54:59 +0000

im not reading that long question, i only think people who dont have much of a life would.
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By: Ravenberri

Ravenberri — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 09:52:15 +0000

Any advice for my boyfriend? (Long, appreciated if someone reponds though, thanks!)?
I’ve known my boyfriend for three years, we’ve been dating for 3 months. When he asked me out, I told him I would love to, but I couldn’t handle some of his habits – mostly smoking pot all the time. He quit cold turkey that day, and hasn’t looked back (he feels better physically and mentally, and the money he’s saved instead of buying a dime he’s very proud of). That’s not a part of my question though, it’s to give you an idea of what his life was like before.

Now.. He wants marriage, a house, kids, he loves me and my family, I have a half dozen nieces and nephews who goes to visit with me, he’s offered my sister to babysit when he can so she can find work, he gets along with my Mom and all that stuff… But it’s such a HUGE difference from what his life was like before – plus, when he goes back to work (auto industry, got laid off for two months, he’s lucky to be going back so soon), he’s taking over his supervisors position, and will be getting a partner position with the company. We’ve planned a budget, and are working towards savings for a house (I’m $4600 behind him in savings, so I’m working hard to catch up), he’s working on some plans for his own business to start up within the next year or sooner – and he’s going to do that as well as keep the job he has.

But.. He’s kinda feeling lost he says, like he’s out of control. I really think it’s because he wasn’t expecting all these things he wanted to come all at once, even though so much of it is what he planned for and wants, and his head is spinning with it all. It’s a weight on him because he hasn’t wrapped his mind around it yet or something.

Also, he doesn’t actually start going back to work for another month, I think he’s anxious and thinking way too much instead of just relaxing for now, he’s going to be making himself very busy soon.

It’s a huge change, it’s all his own doing, lol, and I’m definitely supporting him however he needs so we can both achieve our dreams, but is there any advice out there for him, make this transition a little smoother, something to think about that will help him relax a little?
airikag;

Hey thanks, most of the plans he wants to go through with I think he got himself built up too fast or something, telling him just to slow down is a good enough idea – simple, plain.

Thanks, I guess he’s rushed and makes me a little crazy too, that’s something I should have thought of in the first place!
oh yeah, I’m on the graveyard too, lol, so I have a bit of time to post the long questions and actually rely on the slowness of the day to get a decent responce from someone that has the time too.