Aspects of Intimacy in Relationships

December 16th, 2009 | by admin |

When you get into a relationship, you feel very happy and very close to the person you love. When you are close to someone like this, you become intimate with them. Intimacy opens spiritual and emotional doors where you get to know each other in a deep way. Intimacy in relationships is fundamental if you want the relationship to last long. Most people are looking for intimacy and in marriages; however this closeness can prove elusive. It is vital for you to know some of the steps you can take so that you can make sure that intimacy is kept alive in a relationship. First, you have to reevaluate your relationship and find out why you are not close to your spouse. It is those factors that draw you far from your spouse that cause lack of intimacy. Therefore, it is vital that you identify the problem in your relationship and, you will be in a position to find a good remedy. The following are some of the factors that can contribute in intimacy in relationships. Strife and misunderstandings will be a sure cause of lack of intimacy. When you are not in good terms with your spouse, there will definitely be a difference in closeness.

Intimacy in relationships is pretty sensitive and when trust is broken, the intimacy will be broken too. It is vital for you to establish the reason why anger will take over your life to cause lack of intimacy. Simple things to complex reasons are among those factors that will cause your relationship to hit a brick wall. Therefore, look for solutions and ensure that you resolve your issues. Every couple should have a strategy of dealing with their problems. This is because people are different and, as a couple you will be in a position to recognize what your needs are and solve the matter. If things are very bad, you can opt to go to a professional. Seeking professional help to assist you with your intimacy issues is in order. Professionals are trained guides who can impact your relationship positively. It is vital to realize that when I say intimacy, I do not mean just sex. This is because intimacy is all inclusive and, you can not describe it as just physical although it is a very important part of it.

Let us focus a bit on physical intimacy. A sexless marriage is like a cake without its sweetness. In other words, sex was built to fit in marriage perfectly. However, most couple will be in situations where it is the exact opposite. It is vital for you to look at some of the issues that have gone unspoken. Many spouses do not think that there partners are good in bed and, realizing this does not mean that it is the end. In the contrary, your role is to look for remedies to make your union better. Talking about the problem will not help. However, taking the first step to addressing the issues will go a long way. Look for books to read on both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy in relationships. Look for good articles that will have information on how to spice up and make your marriage bed a haven of choice. If you believe in your union, you can overcome every challenge in regard to intimacy.

Francis Githinji
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  1. 20 Responses to “Aspects of Intimacy in Relationships”

  2. By Grace on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Is physical intimacy really that important in a relationship?
    I’ve always felt that trust, communication, emotional aspects etc are more important in a relationship but guys seems to place a greater emphasis on physical intimacy. Why is this so?

  3. By chaminda l on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Relationships based on physical intimacy first are at a very high risk of failing…..

    The most important things to consider are:

    honesty
    loyalty
    goals
    respect
    maturity
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  4. By Eat My Shorts on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    YES
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  5. By Bear_Polaroid on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    if you have no sexual want/desire/chemistry you have another drinking buddy to hang out with yes physical intamicy is needed and needs to be good and healthy for both or there is no relationship other than friendship
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  6. By shirleykins on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Because they are really different from us, chemically.
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  7. By 11selfhigher on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    guys allow ego to dominant their life
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  8. By stormy l on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    All that you said is true but men need physical intamacy.I guess it makes them feel that you really love them is what I heard but personally i think they just need to be pleasured ever now and again.
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  9. By Andrew S on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Some guys are rather superficial and prefer pleasure to anything else. Like you, I think platonic relationships actually last longer and in more gratifying then a physical one.
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  10. By tohsimas135 on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    The things you mentioned are definitely important and are probably more important than physical intimacy in a solid relationship. But physical intimacy is important too, you can’t possibly have a good relationship without physical intimacy. Guys emphasize it more because it’s the fun part of the relationship.
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  11. By piki on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    yes otherwise its called friendship not relationship
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  12. By kev d on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    depends what you want in a relationship but no matter what type, you guys have to be comfortable around each other. Be able to hold hands, cuddle, enjoy each others company. Relationships without physical intimacy would be a really boring courtship. But yes communication, blah blah blah, and so on is probably a more important aspect of the relationship. You need a mixture and balance of both to have a healthy relationship.
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  13. By fdsfdsfa f on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Guys want sex. What is this stuff about "emotional aspects"?
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  14. By Dr Yahoo on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Until recently there was belief that women are attracted by what they hear and they are very emotional and men are attracted by what they see, and what you see you will want to feel and touch. I mentioned that untill recently because it was discovered that women had more interest in what they saw in naked men and the study is not yet popular.
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  15. By Sazza on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    In happy feet the song Kiss/ Heartbreak hotel says

    You dont have to be beautiful to turn me on i just need ur body baby from dusk till dawn. you dont need experience to turn me out, you just leave it all up to me…. ect.. ect

    girls just want all of the guys available extra time and his kiss

    - – - TRUE!!!
    xoxox saz
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  16. By nicholettejohnson on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    I am a woman and to me physical intimacy is VERY important!! At least once a day important!!

    Communication is a big deal as well!!

    It is so funny…..many guys say they want to have a physical woman but no one can seem to follow through when they get one! Go figure…..
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  17. By scbronstein on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    I ASK THIS ALL THE TIME.WHY IS EX SO IMPORTANT??? THE MENTAL INTIMACY IS SO MUCH DEEPER,AND INJOYABLE.PEOPLE HAVE TO HAVE SEX OR THEY DONT FEEL LIKE THEY GET ANYTHING OUT OF IT.THE REALLY COOL PART OF MENTAL INTIMACY IS WHENYOU BOTH CAN JUST LAY THERE AND REACH AN ORGAISM WITHOUT HAVING SEX AT ALL.NOW THATS WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE A GOOD COUPLE.AD TRUST ME IT IS VERY POSSIBLE TO HAPPEN,I CAN DO IT ALL THE TIME,ALL I HAVE TO DO IS LAY THERE WITH MY MAN AND THINK OF HOW HE PLEASES ME AND AWAY WE GO.SO IF YU CAN FIND SOMEONE WHO WANTS MORE MENTAL INTIMACY YO WILL HAVE A MUCH BETTER RELATIONSHIP.IT WILL BE ON A WHOLE DIFERENT LEVEL.PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE TO HAVE SEX IN OREDER TO HAVE A RELATIONSHSIP AND YO DO NOT.
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    SOMEONE WHO FEELS LIKE YOU DO!!!!!

  18. By karmajjj123 on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Well this is a common mistake women make, I dont want to encourage anyone outside of marriage to have sex lol, but we live in the real world, I will give you a hypothetical answer, all the stuff you listed are very important in a marriage, trust communication, emotion, BUT, physical intimacy is ALSO important, its not close to everthing, its not even the most important thing but its just as important as the other things, it makes the relationship whole, keep him happy in that department even though you might not always want too, and if hes a good guy he will keep you happy in your departments even though he wont always want to, its not equal, but balanced.
    me personally aside from sexual stuff I like to hold hands, cuddle etc, all that is also physical intimacy
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  19. By Renoirs_Dream on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    It is a known fact that men open up to their mates by sexual intimacy. A man’s mind basically is programmed to say. “ I love you this much…. “ Unfortunately there are players who have no conscience. BUT when you spurn a lover or mate away from physical touch it sometimes says. “I don’t like you right now.” Or “I don’t like you enough to……”

    The two examples you gave above ALSO dictate TRUST and COMMUNICATION via physical touch. See how it works? I trust you to be my lover… Don’t you feel our souls connect when we make love…. That is EXACTLY what happens when you have certain encounters.

    Ever since the dawn of time men had to be PHYSICAL in order to show how much they cared for their mate. Bringing home the food after the hunt. Protecting the tribe and family from danger. As civilization progressed the less physical encounters man faces. Fighting for his mate is now virtually unheard of. Protecting your love from everyday danger is even more unheard of. Some men even confuse this physical Neanderthal instinct with force that is geared towards their mate. They have to show you how though they can be when the emotions are crossed or reversed in the wrong direction.

    Look at primates. They pick bugs off their loved ones to show them how much they love them … PHYSICAL CONTACT.

    Don’t 99% of the women always go after the "Bad Boy?" Don’t women prefer muscular men for the most part?
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  20. By mgerben on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    Trust and communication are fine but you have those between friends too.
    Physical intimacy, aka SEX, is important because:
    - it is a really deep feeling, causing great pleasure and emotions and emotions of intimacy
    - you would normally share it with one person, which makes it all the more special
    - you give in to your feelings, rather than choosing and picking polite words to communicate. To do that with somebody creates a bond.

    On the other hand, it also means something if someone wants to be meaningful, communicative friends, but does not want to have sex. What that person is saying is that he/she does not want that level of intimacy with you. So that’s saying something about your relationship, too.

    Guys aren’t really that shallow, and sex really does make a lot of difference.
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  21. By why not whats lacking in my qs? on Dec 16, 2009 | Reply

    ur all right if u r same sex in opposite sex sex is a must otherwise why were Adam and EVE created?
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