Comments on: How to Save a Relationship – 5 Steps to Save Your Relationship http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship ..getting back together Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:21:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: dchst25 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1232 dchst25 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:35:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1232 Give it to God. Prayer and the display of unconditional love can save your marriage. I am also having marriage problems and one night while I was searching for websites that would help me save my marriage(I tried them all), I came across rejoiceministries.org. I found there are thousands, millions, around the world standing for their the restoration of their marriages. I realized that my marriage problems were bacause I was always doing things my way and not God's way. I gave my life to God. Since then I have grown into a better person daily. My prayers have and are bening answered, God is restoring my marriage. If God can restore my marriage, he can restore yours! It doesn't even matter if your husband is meeting you have way, prayer can do much more than you think, nothing is impossible with God.<br><b>References : </b><br>rejoiceministries.org Give it to God. Prayer and the display of unconditional love can save your marriage. I am also having marriage problems and one night while I was searching for websites that would help me save my marriage(I tried them all), I came across rejoiceministries.org. I found there are thousands, millions, around the world standing for their the restoration of their marriages. I realized that my marriage problems were bacause I was always doing things my way and not God’s way. I gave my life to God. Since then I have grown into a better person daily. My prayers have and are bening answered, God is restoring my marriage. If God can restore my marriage, he can restore yours! It doesn’t even matter if your husband is meeting you have way, prayer can do much more than you think, nothing is impossible with God.
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]]> By: ms. naughty http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1231 ms. naughty Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:33:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1231 wow this is sad, do you really want to save the marriage? I mean how did it get this bad, I see it this way if you love someone you just don't turn and leave the most important person out of your life. so think how did this happen, that he wants to walk out, what you need to do is you and your husband should sit down and write 10 things that are important! then start working on them, most men they love to be loved, it not always about sex yeah they might talk about sex all the time but the lacking of most marriage the wife just forgets that a man has feelings and they should be treated right if you don't want to have sex then that is fine but if they do then what is the best thing to do to keep them happy! now that your scared he going to walk away it all about you but what about him how did he come to this all of a sudden and your mental instability is something a woman always says when they think there losing something they love! well I think you know how to win your husband back so you should do what you know is need to keep your family together no counseling will help you unless you want it bad enough. then you need to make your husband feel loved again!<br><b>References : </b><br> wow this is sad, do you really want to save the marriage? I mean how did it get this bad, I see it this way if you love someone you just don’t turn and leave the most important person out of your life. so think how did this happen, that he wants to walk out, what you need to do is you and your husband should sit down and write 10 things that are important! then start working on them, most men they love to be loved, it not always about sex yeah they might talk about sex all the time but the lacking of most marriage the wife just forgets that a man has feelings and they should be treated right if you don’t want to have sex then that is fine but if they do then what is the best thing to do to keep them happy! now that your scared he going to walk away it all about you but what about him how did he come to this all of a sudden and your mental instability is something a woman always says when they think there losing something they love! well I think you know how to win your husband back so you should do what you know is need to keep your family together no counseling will help you unless you want it bad enough. then you need to make your husband feel loved again!
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]]> By: pride2075 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1230 pride2075 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:31:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1230 It takes 2 people to save a marriage, he’s putting too much weight on you and it’s stressing you out even more at times when you should be taking care of your health. That’s so not fair. He should be stick by you no matter what, if he loves you enough. Don’t show him your neediness, which will push him away more. Play a game that you’re ok with breaking up and that there is someone else for you out there. Book time with friends & family, look your best and try to be happy. He’ll notice your independence and he’ll see you’re able to be happy. He’s not the only thing that’ll make you happy. Good luck with your therapy. By the way, buy a book called ‘why men marry bitches’, it’s an eye opening. It might help your marriage and the way he sees you.<br><b>References : </b><br> It takes 2 people to save a marriage, he’s putting too much weight on you and it’s stressing you out even more at times when you should be taking care of your health. That’s so not fair. He should be stick by you no matter what, if he loves you enough. Don’t show him your neediness, which will push him away more. Play a game that you’re ok with breaking up and that there is someone else for you out there. Book time with friends & family, look your best and try to be happy. He’ll notice your independence and he’ll see you’re able to be happy. He’s not the only thing that’ll make you happy. Good luck with your therapy. By the way, buy a book called ‘why men marry bitches’, it’s an eye opening. It might help your marriage and the way he sees you.
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]]> By: Gary B http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1229 Gary B Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:29:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1229 1) Go see or rent the movie called "FIREPROOF" 2) Buy the book (at a Christian books store). Do what it says. 3) Get some counseling. Get the Fireproof book; find a Christian counseling service. ALL of your question are spiritual in nature. It is not about what you can or cannot do, it is all about what you are WILLING to do or not do. You CAN save your marriage -- are you WILLING to put in the effor? You CAN put your life back on track -- are you WILLING to make a real effort to learn what that track is supposed to be? You CAN forgive a wayward husband for anything -- are you WILLING to do so. If YOu are not willing to make this effort, then do not blame the failure of your marriage on your mate. The problem is within you. ONLY after you have made every herculean effort possible, and then he leaves you, can you consider yourself "innocent". More importantly, you MUST also forgive yourself for the role that you play in this. Are you WILLING do to so, or are you more interested in wallowing in self-pity? GETTING married is easy, STAYING married takes a lot of really hard work and commitment. And quite often, as it appears in this case, that work and commitment must come from only one person. Marriage is NOT a 50/50 proposition -- it is 100/100. BOTH people MUST give forth a 100% effort, or the marriage will fail. In the meantime, it is often necessary for one or the other to give more than 100% to make up for a reticent partner. That's what you do -- you're married! I presume that your marriage vows said something like "for better or for worse" -- well, this is the "worse" part. But you took a vow to remain, to work through it. There is nothing stopping you, except you. Are you WILLING to make the effort?<br><b>References : </b><br> 1) Go see or rent the movie called "FIREPROOF"
2) Buy the book (at a Christian books store). Do what it says.
3) Get some counseling. Get the Fireproof book; find a Christian counseling service.

ALL of your question are spiritual in nature. It is not about what you can or cannot do, it is all about what you are WILLING to do or not do.

You CAN save your marriage — are you WILLING to put in the effor?
You CAN put your life back on track — are you WILLING to make a real effort to learn what that track is supposed to be?
You CAN forgive a wayward husband for anything — are you WILLING to do so.
If YOu are not willing to make this effort, then do not blame the failure of your marriage on your mate. The problem is within you. ONLY after you have made every herculean effort possible, and then he leaves you, can you consider yourself "innocent".

More importantly, you MUST also forgive yourself for the role that you play in this. Are you WILLING do to so, or are you more interested in wallowing in self-pity?

GETTING married is easy, STAYING married takes a lot of really hard work and commitment. And quite often, as it appears in this case, that work and commitment must come from only one person. Marriage is NOT a 50/50 proposition — it is 100/100. BOTH people MUST give forth a 100% effort, or the marriage will fail.

In the meantime, it is often necessary for one or the other to give more than 100% to make up for a reticent partner. That’s what you do — you’re married! I presume that your marriage vows said something like "for better or for worse" — well, this is the "worse" part. But you took a vow to remain, to work through it.

There is nothing stopping you, except you. Are you WILLING to make the effort?
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]]> By: howmanyhalos http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1228 howmanyhalos Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:27:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1228 Your marriage can't be "fixed" in 6 months. A marriage takes a lifetime. He knows it is over and he is just using you for sex. Cut him off and see how fast that "6 months" turns into "I can't do this, we're over". Continue with your therapy whilst saving some money and as soon as you can leave, do so. Stop being an enabler. You deserve more than that.<br><b>References : </b><br> Your marriage can’t be "fixed" in 6 months. A marriage takes a lifetime. He knows it is over and he is just using you for sex. Cut him off and see how fast that "6 months" turns into "I can’t do this, we’re over". Continue with your therapy whilst saving some money and as soon as you can leave, do so. Stop being an enabler. You deserve more than that.
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]]> By: love_my_girlz http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1227 love_my_girlz Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:25:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1227 My opinion is no matter how crazy you are ,when someone loves you they don't just walk out. They try to make it work cause they don't want to see you end up with anyone else..is he with someone else? Maybe that's why hes so decided! If hes not cheating then hes just tired of you and that's not love so why do you want someone who doesn't love you, flirting and having sex doesn't mean he loves you being there for you when you need him does.<br><b>References : </b><br> My opinion is no matter how crazy you are ,when someone loves you they don’t just walk out.

They try to make it work cause they don’t want to see you end up with anyone else..is he with someone else? Maybe that’s why hes so decided!

If hes not cheating then hes just tired of you and that’s not love so why do you want someone who doesn’t love you, flirting and having sex doesn’t mean he loves you being there for you when you need him does.
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]]> By: kid http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1226 kid Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:23:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1226 what I don't understand is that if her still loves you and still makes love to you why on earth is he not prepared to live with you. If he truly loves you he should Honor the vow he made, til death do us apart and the rest of them. If he can't stick with you when you need him then maybe it is time for you to move on. Your the one who needs the help and he is not willing so try to move, although one more shot at trying to make it work won't go amiss and won't leave you regretting your decision if you had left him with out trying to make your marrige work. I know this I sound like a hypocrite but you should make him sit down and explain to him how you feel and if he still does not understand then it is time to let go. Hope it works out.<br><b>References : </b><br> what I don’t understand is that if her still loves you and still makes love to you why on earth is he not prepared to live with you. If he truly loves you he should Honor the vow he made, til death do us apart and the rest of them. If he can’t stick with you when you need him then maybe it is time for you to move on. Your the one who needs the help and he is not willing so try to move, although one more shot at trying to make it work won’t go amiss and won’t leave you regretting your decision if you had left him with out trying to make your marrige work. I know this I sound like a hypocrite but you should make him sit down and explain to him how you feel and if he still does not understand then it is time to let go. Hope it works out.
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]]> By: Javier169 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1225 Javier169 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:21:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1225 What did you do to him? Most females are like you nowadays...just confused and dont know what the hell they want really...nice guy...when they get it they spit him out...bad guy...they get it and they want a nice guy. All on their own selfish road to self discovery...they are hurting so many people even their own kids for females that cheat or get divorced so they can go on a soul searching selfish search. man I feel bad for the kids nowadays.... We tell men..MAN up...well you need to WOMAN up. Accept responsibility for your choices...i dont know what teh background is...but man this is another classic case of a confused and most likely selfish female. Sorry if i was harsh... How long have you been separated? What happened? If I am off base I do apologize but you did not really give us any inside details<br><b>References : </b><br> What did you do to him? Most females are like you nowadays…just confused and dont know what the hell they want really…nice guy…when they get it they spit him out…bad guy…they get it and they want a nice guy. All on their own selfish road to self discovery…they are hurting so many people even their own kids for females that cheat or get divorced so they can go on a soul searching selfish search. man I feel bad for the kids nowadays….

We tell men..MAN up…well you need to WOMAN up. Accept responsibility for your choices…i dont know what teh background is…but man this is another classic case of a confused and most likely selfish female. Sorry if i was harsh…

How long have you been separated? What happened? If I am off base I do apologize but you did not really give us any inside details
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]]> By: larryrodz71 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1224 larryrodz71 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:19:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1224 No offense but your husband should know that all women have mental issues. I mean this is a good way........... they have there 5 day blood fest or they just tend to be well ummm kind of confusing to a man. He should know this and understand not how a women works because that will never happen. More of knowing how you are and accepting you and your issues. I know i will get thumbs down but i am on your side... you should not be the only one trying to save this relationship he should pitch in too. Marriage is between two people not just one ... he needs to step up if he wants to keep you. Sorry Ladies men and women just do not always understand each other thats why divorce is so high<br><b>References : </b><br> No offense but your husband should know that all women have mental issues. I mean this is a good way……….. they have there 5 day blood fest or they just tend to be well ummm kind of confusing to a man.
He should know this and understand not how a women works because that will never happen. More of knowing how you are and accepting you and your issues. I know i will get thumbs down but i am on your side… you should not be the only one trying to save this relationship he should pitch in too.
Marriage is between two people not just one … he needs to step up if he wants to keep you.
Sorry Ladies men and women just do not always understand each other thats why divorce is so high
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]]> By: KJ jr http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-1223 KJ jr Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:17:59 +0000 http://www.texasdivorce411.com/intimacy/how-to-save-a-relationship-5-steps-to-save-your-relationship#comment-1223 Your husband is telling you to leave in six months. it's not all that hard to understand, no? forget him. forget the marriage. i'm not quite sure what you meant by mental instability, but you need to get that taken care of, before worrying about anything else.<br><b>References : </b><br> Your husband is telling you to leave in six months.

it’s not all that hard to understand, no?

forget him.
forget the marriage.
i’m not quite sure what you meant by mental instability, but you need to get that taken care of, before worrying about anything else.
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