Marriage Compatibility Test

February 25th, 2010 | by admin |

Brace yourself. I’m about to yell at you! Why do you want to take a marriage compatibility test? Don’t you have enough problems without looking for areas of incompatibility?

OK, I’ll play along and give you a test… then a lecture.

Question 1: Are you currently married?

Question 2: Do you have children?

Question 3: Do you wish to have a very happy marriage?

Question 4: Can your spouse answer the same way you did?

If you have answered yes to at least two out of the four questions you are not only compatible but you have the ability to have the happiest marriage on Earth.

Compatibility is a misleading word, my friends. I have a cat (ok, my daughter has a cat). I love my Tina. Don’t ask me why. My cat and I are not compatible except for when I feed her or brush her (most of the time). Otherwise she never does what I want to do unless it was her idea. She doesn’t think like I do and she has no respect for me. But I love her and I’m keeping her… even if we get a dog later!

You got married for reasons that no longer matter. Some couples I met with told me they were not in love when they got married; doesn’t matter. They still had a great marriage once they learned what marriage is all about.

Here are some more questions:

Question 5: Are you able to feel love?

Question 6: Are you able to tell right from wrong?

Question 7: Would you like to stop suffering?

Question 8: Do you think your spouse answered 5-7 the same as you?

If you answered questions 5-8 with “yes,” you and your spouse are compatible. What is more important than compatibility in the areas of emotions, politics, or activity levels is your willingness to respect your spouse for who they are and be loyal to them because you are married to them (like you promised when you got married). When you understand the correct principles of marriage, you will have an amazing marriage and you will be happy. More importantly, your children will be safe from the trauma of separation and divorce. Ok, one more question:

Question 9: Do you really believe your children will be fine if you and your spouse agree to destroy their foundation of security?

If you answered yes to question 9 you have been duped by a psychological doctrine that is insane at best. You need to do what it takes to get your marriage into happiness. I don’t use the term “back on track” because most marriages never were on a good track to begin with. You don’t need to suffer anymore. Learn how to have a happy marriage, which is as easy as learning which way to turn the jar lid to get it off and start having a happy marriage. You deserve it and you should have it as soon as possible.

Now, that wasn’t too harsh, was it?

Paul Friedman

Author of Lessons for A Happy Marriage

Paul Friedman
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/marriage-compatibility-test-672861.html

  1. 6 Responses to “Marriage Compatibility Test”

  2. By dandidot on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    What type of questions are asked in a catholic church compatibility test before marriage?
    My friend is getting married and is scared of what is going to be asked and what all goes along with the process so if anyone has gone through the classes or any information on this would be great thank you

  3. By Jeff S Phoenix_AM on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    I do know they want to make sure you will raise your children in a Catholic environment. <—-but, i bet thats true for most religions
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    ex-Catholic…18 years…but still single….and if i married now, i think Elvis in Vegas would be the guy telling me to kiss my bride

  4. By Brendon on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    Depends on the church, really. Mostly it’s just to gauge your compatibility and to make sure you aren’t at each other’s throats or run the risk of becoming that way. Not a bad idea, when you stop to think about it.
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  5. By Bibs on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    In marriage preparation they discuss what marriage is and what the participants can expect in married life. They discuss Christian marriage, love for each other, and the part about children. I hope that you will be very happy.
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  6. By orthros on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    It is not a "test" and no need to be "scared" either…..The pastor may suggest an RCIA class if one of the engaged people is not Catholic and would like to convert (by heart) to the faith.
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  7. By sparki777 on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply

    The standard test includes questions about how you look at household chores, budgeting, basic child-rearing stuff (forms of discipline, etc.), socializing with family and friends, conflict resolution, etc.

    Generally, the guy fills out a form, the girl fills out the same form, and the priest explains where they are compatible, where they are complementary, and where they might be at odds. The reason why this is helpful is because you go into marriage knowing where the strong points are in your relationship (the compatible & complementary ones) and where there might be some weak spots. For example, if in the conflict resolution stuff, you find out that the wife wants and needs immediate resolution and the husband wants time to sort things out on his own, it’s good to know that ahead of time so that they aren’t making each other too crazy when they are in conflict.

    Your friend should not be so intimidated. It’s usually never as bad as the couple thinks it’s going to be. (And if it’s worse, it’s better to find out before the wedding than after.)
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