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Marriage Counseling – 7 Tips That Will Guarantee a Successful Marriage in 2009

March 12th, 2010

Every year we tell ourselves we are going to work on our marriage. We want to see improvements and we want them to be lasting. As the New Year feeling wears off we find ourselves doing the same things, treating each other the same way, and experiencing the same troubles.

 

Well, we have come up with seven tips that can help you have a successful 2009. The only catch to it working for you is ensuring that every three months you make a commitment to go them over to ensure that you are remaining on the right path.

 

Be Willing to Start Over
A new year is filled with new opportunities. Your marriage is one year older, you are one year older and you should be one year wiser. Some couples just need to decide to put the past behind them and get a new beginning.

 

I do not know which couple has never experienced difficult times in their marriage. However, the difference with those marriages that succeed and those that fail is a decision to turn the page; to erase all the hurts and mistakes. Doing this will not be easy, but it is essential if you want to have a great year.

 

Become Goal Oriented
Set yourself specific goals for this year. But before doing so take some time and discuss the future with your spouse. You do not want to know that both of you want to achieve opposing things that will cause discord in the future.

 

Be Willing To Grow
Every year we should be growing in our maturity, love for each other and wisdom. You cannot carry the same bad habits you had in 2008, especially if they contributed to a troubled marriage. You may need to stop: drinking, nagging, bickering, fighting, cursing, lying, stealing, cheating, getting upset so easily, being unreliable and uncommunicative.

 

You may need to make your own list of areas you need to grow in or things you need to stop doing. Every thing is a decision away. What will be your decision?

 

Become a Good Listener
Has your spouse ever complained that you do not listen to them? Well, chances are it could be true. Decide to become a better listener in 2009.

 

If you have been struggling with this for quite a while, then maybe you need to get some books or audios that can help you. I think most people do not change because they accept certain things as a part of their character, not knowing that they determine their character.

 

Be Willing to Enjoy Life
Ecclesiastes chapter six and verse seven tells us that, “All man’s efforts are for his mouth, yet his appetite is never satisfied”.

 

I totally agree with this passage because no matter how hard we work to provide for our families, we will never be fully satisfied. We may tell ourselves that things will be better when we are debt free, own our own home or buy a new car. But sooner or later when we will become accustomed to what we have, we will be longing for more.

 

My recommendation to you is enjoy what you already have. Have fun with your family. Decide to take that family vacation you have been putting off, decide to go on that cruise with your spouse for your next anniversary, spend more time at home with your family and cut back on the time you spend at work. I know that times are difficult, but if you are determined to make it happen, it will happen.

 

Become More Spiritual
You may not be a spiritual individual and you have noticed that your values have been sliding. That you compromise on issues that you once held dear. Decide that this year you will become a more spiritual being.

 

Choose to take the right path over the path that has been leading you to no where. Spend time imparting good moral values to your children. Stop being one of those parents who say, “Do what I say but do not do what I do”.

 

Be the Best Spouse that You can be
It is time that you stop settling for less. We all have it in us to be a better spouse.
For 2009, be unwavering and committed that no matter what happens your marriage will be the best it has been in years, because you were willing to be a better wife or a better husband.

 

Finally, I want you to take your spouse along with you for this exciting journey. If both of you are dedicated to the plan, then the plan will stand a better chance of succeeding.

 

Do you want to regain that happiness and intimacy you once shared with your spouse?

 

Life is too short to spend it wishing you had a happy and steaming hot marriage when you can do something about it. Get your FREE Marriage Ecourse and Video Book or learn how Mark and Lesia’s revolutionary Marriage Thermometer can Save Your Marriage at: http://www.marriagethermometer.com 

Mark & Lesia Gregory
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Dating Russian Women Is Challenging And Fun

March 12th, 2010

Foreigners are a welcome and desired date for Russian women. However the real dating is not just for a night or two and here is some simple advice to keep in mind when you are approaching a local lady.

Dating a Russian woman is an exciting experience for everyone. Here girls are easy going and charming. They are usually considered “hot” by most foreigners. In local customs, the phrase “Dating Russian Woman” has its reciprocal saying, which is “Dating Foreign Man”. For many of them meeting someone who is coming from “abroad” is an exotic and extremely desired experience.

The reasons are hidden in the background of the Russian traditions, the economic situation in the country and most of all, the perspectives that might be opened for the woman. Usually such kind of relationship is opening brand new horizons for both sides.

Before starting the real matchmaking experience, men should know a few important things about the traditions. Dating Russian women, just like in any other relationship in the modern world and countries with European orientation, has its natural roots. It is preceded by the moment of flirtation when you will try to impress your future fiance. This task is not so simple because Russian women are not so easy to pick up.

Before reaching the moment when you are actually dating, you should know that offensive gestures or offers would never make their way to her heart. When we talk about offensive offers, we are referring mainly to these for paid company services or sex. Knowing how to approach the woman and touch the deeply hidden cords of her heart is an art.

Simply learning the name of the woman and being able to pronounce it right, with a proper Russian accent will not be enough for saying that you have succeeded and she will fall in love with you immediately. After you have predisposed your date, you will be expected to treat her with respect and attention. Dating Russian women sometimes means investing not only financial resources, in order to keep her close to you and interested in your relationship. Small or generous presents will not be enough and you have to show your emotional engagement and attitude.

Passing the initial phases of dating Russian women sometimes evolves in meeting with her family or friends. To most men this is a real challenge for the patience and results in a huge cultural shock. Local people are noisy and ingenious. They are open minded and will be curious what had taken you there. The language barrier sometimes prevents effective communication and is considered a real nightmare for foreigners who are unprepared for such an experience.

The Russian language for example uses a different alphabet. Although many Russian women are ready for compromises you should know that dating Russian women and getting along with their family is a big plus that will take you to her heart and help you stay there forever.

In short, it is a pleasant and rich emotional adventure, especially if you are ready to investigate all the Russian traditions with which you will be involved. The dream might come true only for those who are careful, pay attention to the customs and do not cause offence because being a foreigner is not always an excuse of being discourteous.

Peter Finch
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Relationship Of The Law Of Attraction And Hypnosis

March 12th, 2010

Hypnosis is the technique used to persuade a persons sub conscious to change feelings, behavior or beliefs. The law of attraction is the idea that whatever a person is thinking or believing in their mind guides their actions and goals. The law of attraction and hypnosis are closely linked. The law of attraction is actually the basic idea behind hypnosis.

The Law of Attraction Explained

The law of attraction was defined by Dr. William James around the beginning of the twentieth century. It is a commonly held belief that the law of attraction exists and is true. It has been proven an innumerable amount of times because people show that the right attitude and mindset can help them achieve their goals. The same can be said for negative thinking causing negative things to happen. It works both ways. The law of attraction basically states that whatever you are thinking in your mind, you make a reality.

A Good Example

A really good example that ties the law of attraction into hypnosis is a person that smokes and who wishes to quit smoking. By the law of attraction, if this person sets their mind to quit smoking he can do so. Hypnosis comes in to help the person get past the addiction. Smoking is a hard habit to quit. A smoker is addicted to the cigarettes both mentally and physically.

It takes strong will power to quit and quit for good. t is thought that quitting is very deeply routed in the mental addiction more than the physical addiction, so the extra help from hypnosis combined with the law of attraction equals them reaching their goal.

How the Law of Attraction and Hypnosis Work Together

By itself the law of attraction may seem able to do anything. However, people often do not understand that they must be thinking the same thing in their conscious and sub conscious mind. Back to the example above, the smoker may feel like they really want to quit, but sub consciously their mind has not completely accepted the idea of quitting. Hypnosis gets to the sub conscious mind and allows the person to fully have the drive to quit.

The law of attraction and hypnosis work together to ensure the mind is completely on board with what the goal is. Together they provide enough positive thinking to get the goal reached. A person can really benefit by using the two together to help them reach goals they may be having problems reaching.

Ann Marier
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March 12th, 2010

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Relationship & Dating Advice : How to Tell if She Likes You

March 12th, 2010

A man can tell if a woman likes him if they flirt, if the woman smiles and makes eye contact and if her body language is inviting. Look for a woman to let you know she’s interested with tips from a life and relationship coach in this free video on dating advice.

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Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex Equals Joy and Happiness, Eventually! But the Shadow Says, It’s not for Everyone!

March 9th, 2010

Are you kidding me? What do you mean it’s not for everyone? I want a piece of this! Are you sure? We cannot be truly happy without the integration of the shadow and the light. Most people want the light without the darkness. Sorry, impossible. We live in a dualistic world. Life is about integrating all parts of us back to the remembrance of wholeness and the realization that we are Love. We must embrace all parts of ourselves. We must heal with others. We are not meant to heal alone or in isolation, even if we are connecting to God in meditation or prayer. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. We must heal our humanness. This requires lower chakra work which means feeling and releasing fear, shame, guilt, and loneliness. Relationship work is necessary. For now we are concentrating of what Sacred Relationship is and what it is not. Soul Sex is the organic energy that heals separation and empowers us to realize our true human potential. Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex go hand in hand if you dare choose this path.

First let’s talk about Sacred Relationship. What it is not is keeping the peace at all costs. This stymies growth all around. Remember this, if we are not growing we are dying. We are here to grow! Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion speak about their experience in relationship in “The Magdalen Manuscript: The Alchemies of Horus & The Sex Magic of Isis.” “You can actually think you love someone so much that you never call them on their stuff, thinking it would hurt them too much. I’ll tell you what hurts—not calling someone on his or her stuff. That’s what kills and creates disease and compliance to non-growth and disillusionment. When you do not share your truth, one morning you wake up and find yourself living with a stranger, a roommate. This is not the road to Sacred Relationship (Kenyon and Sion, 2002).” The above description is one example of what Sacred Relationship is not!

Sacred Relationship takes courage, (1st chakra and 2nd chakra), and vigilant commitment! “Understand that you are in alchemical process when you are in Sacred Relationship; and you search for pictures, and sometimes when the pictures don’t match, you get scared. As this heat gets turned up and you can’t take the heat, go to another place where the heat is not so strong. Pause and let the world stop; take each others hands, though the last thing you want to do is touch each other in these times; speak the truth about what face is showing itself. Understand that telling the truth is not going to break apart anything. Always stay in truth. It’s going to get hot. Don’t give up. Buy a clutch pedal cover and put it on your altar. Hold hands and walk across the burning coals. And I promise you—you will think you are going to die. And you won’t (Kenyon and Sion, 2002).” As you can see this is not for everyone!

According to “The Alchemy Of Love And Sex” by Lee Lozowick we need to rethink and experience the energy of our charkas differently in order to engage in Soul Sex. The benefits of Sacred Relationship are the joy and happiness that comes from hard and deep soul work. Our relationship will alchemize into a celebration of oneness as we make Love and God with each other. True Love is unattached. It comes from the heart. But it is pumped up by the lower moving center (second chakra) to the seventh chakra in bliss and Soul Sexual union. The heart (the higher feeling center) needs to be open first before the lower moving center (second chakra) is activated. Otherwise, attachment and other dysfunctions can occur. It is also important to realize that the higher thinking center (third eye) is what opens the heart. So the key to Soul Sex and Sacred Relationship is working through the charkas from 1 (lower moving center), 3 (lower feeling center), 5 (lower thinking center), 6 (higher thinking center), 4 (higher feeling center), 2 (higher moving center), to 7 (connection to oneness and the divine). This assures us of proper energy transfer between the charkas (Lozowick, 1996). Obviously, this is not how we normally practice our growth in western culture. If we did, we would access more happiness, Love, and joy!

So you want Love and happiness in your relationship? The shadow says Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex are challenging to say the least, but well worth it if you can commit to transcendence with yourself and your mate. It can get dark at times and can get challenging healing the wounds, especially the sexual ones. Our religious culture and the church has distorted what sex is and deleted the truth in many instances. “In actuality, there is no need to refrain from the sex act in order to practice this form of alchemy. Indeed as Magdalen discusses in the Manuscript, there are ways that the sex act can greatly empower the ascent of sekhem, or ‘that which makes things erect,’ up the spine. For various historical reasons, too complex to go into here, the church separated sex from spirit, but in the ancient Egyptian understanding, they were intimately connected” (Kenyon and Sion, 2002). Thank God! We need to heal the separation. I’m all for this connection. I have experienced glimpses of Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex and know their power of healing and connection to God and Love. The path to oneness through Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex leads to happiness, Love, and joy, eventually. It’s not for everyone, but it’s better late than never for those of us still searching for happiness and higher consciousness in our relationships!

Rusty Stewart, Ph.D., ACHt.
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Vital Topics in a Marriage Forum

March 9th, 2010

Are you married or seeking to get married? If so, a marriage forum is for you. Information is power and forums will provide you with just that. From what many say, marriage is not a bed of roses and this statement might be very confusing to people who are excited to get into marriage. A marriage forum will reveal what exactly to expect in a marriage. One thing that we agree on is that there are very many challenges. Overcoming these challenges will need great wisdom and a good forum for marriage is an eye opener. Therefore, it is time you looked for a forum and heard to what people with and without experience have to say. In good forums, you will have marriage experts speak to members on issues that can be termed as contentious. There are many things that marriage comes with and, you do not have to wait until marriage for you to know how to handle them. For people who are already in marriage, the problems have already set in and forums will play a pivotal role in guiding you to the right solutions.

A marriage forum will discuss many topics and they include the following. How do you recognize the person to marry in the first place? This is a very good question and, you will need to read what people say when you are in an online marriage forum. First, marriage is something that is supposed to come naturally for you. If you feel forced or rushed, there is a problem and maybe you are not ready for it or do not love the person. When someone you love proposes to you, you will not hesitate to say yes in excitement. This is the way you really know you are ready for marriage. You must be of the right age and conscious about the consequences that marriage comes with. When you enter into marriage, forums will reveal that things start to change. However, there are marriages where things are not as dramatic as people try to picture them. One building block that you must have for marriage is commitment. You need to commit even when you do not feel like. Know what your goals for the marriage are. A good marriage goal can be; to be happy together forever. To be happy, you need to be on the same page of the same book. You will learn the literal meaning of becoming one.

A good marriage forum will discuss issues like how to keep the fire burning in a relationship. ‘Fire burning’ has been overrated and you need to go back to the good old times and seek counsel from older people and how they managed to beat the boredom. These days, people want to live lavishly to signify that the ‘fire is burning’. However, simple humility and understanding for your partner will go a long way to keep passion alive. Remember, you just have to be happy and that is all that matters. Materials will make you happy for a short time and after you have used money, you still need real mutual joy that comes from the heart.

Francis Githinji
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How to Save a Relationship in 5 Steps

March 9th, 2010

Scott works long hours and Beth often feels lonely. She seems to spend her entire life meeting the needs of the kids and then Scott feels she doesn’t have time for him. This relationship looks like it’s doomed. Can it be saved? Should they even try to save it? Here’s a few tips on how to save a relationship.

Step 1. You must both decide that you want to save the relationship. Most relationships can be saved with hard work, but you must both want it to work. If one of you has decided enough is enough then there is little that you can do to repair it.

Lots of people will soldier on in a relationship simply because of the kids. Or because it’s routine and convenient for them. This isn’t enough in the long term. If you want to learn how to save a relationship, then you need agreement by both of you that it is indeed worth saving.

Step 2. You must identify the problem or problems in your relationship. A major problem in how to save a relationship is that you tend to think the symptoms of the problem are the actual problem.

Many people think an affair is a problem that will cause a break up. But often times an affair is a symptom of a deeper underlying problem. Lack of real intimacy can often lead to a partner cheating. Most people will see the act of cheating as the problem where the real culprit is the lack of intimacy. Even if you can stop the cheating, say through the use of guilt, you may end up with another problem (internet porn for instance) because you haven’t dealt with the actual problem of a lack of intimacy.

When you face and fix the actual problems, and not the symptoms. You can save a relationship from disaster.

Step 3. When you indentify your problems, you can both share your views. This means both expressing your own views and listening to your partners concerns. If you can be close and maybe hold hands while discussing your problems you are giving your partner a signal that you want to connect, even if your emotions are running a bit wild. If your partner says something upsetting, don’t start a fight but remember they are saying this because they care and want to improve your overall relationship.

Step 4. Once you have both discussed the problems then it’s time to make a plan of action to help solve them. Then be sure to take firm steps on your plan of action. If you aren’t spending enough time together, plan one night a week when you can be together, and if possible without distraction. Try to be creative in ways to spend some time together.  If communicating is one of the problems then agree to talk to each other for 10 or 15 minutes before you go to bed. And make sure you stick to it.

Step 5. Finally, realize that to save a relationship isn’t a one time thing. It is ongoing all the time. If the relationship isn’t growing it will start to fail. Realise you will have a few setbacks. It may seem like a few steps forward and one step back. There are going to be great times going forward but also the odd tear will be shed. If you can apologize quickly and hold your tongue when you want to blame you can’t fail to be a better person, and your relationship will grow.

Is your relationship worth saving? If so, the tips in this article will give you a kick start. The rest is up to you

Alex Anders
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Free Online Dating And Date For Free!

March 9th, 2010

It is really difficult to meet someone special by means of traditional way, although there are many choices to make, but the world is to big to meet a perfect match. Hanging out in a local bar, sitting in a high end bar stool and drinking in a wonderful glass of cocktail drink, trying to hunt an ideal prospect seem to be tedious, time consuming as well as a luxury.

Office rules may forbid you to date coworkers and likewise to have a relationship in the same department. Being in a public gathering will lead you to a misleading relationship. And moreover you have not clicked anyone in an amazing party. Or not find an interesting match in church that you go to every Sunday.

It is a high time for you to make try easier ways to get a click with someone else. There are lots of new and trendy ways on how to meet people without thinking of the big expenses and time. Change your social life without attending a date, but filled with new and bigger possibilities. Free online dating is what exactly you need. You can date quality people who share your goals and interests for free. Your love misery will be answered.

With free Online dating, you can broaden your social horizons, meet variety of people, find special someone, and more than that can happen a lot sooner than you think. Take note! Everything is absolutely free. The services are free for your needs. Get a load of it and you will be amazed of what difference it will give you.

Free online dating service at the rise of the new millennium has conquered the traditional form of dating. Ever since the beginning, the primary goal is to create the perfect dating website, for people of different interests and backgrounds to meet on our free online dating service, and enjoy each others company.

Publishing continuously new materials containing web dating, relationship and flirting tips, advice on how to behave in various situations and a lot more of other interesting information. Added to that, a catalogue with the list of offline and online dating agencies, as well as, Internet dating services will soon be available.

Developed by different experts in the rise of the new millennium. The distinct advantages is that it provides convenient internal messaging service. New features are introduced regularly, to make your online dating experience even more enjoyable and exciting.

Free online dating provides a comfortable and intimate environment where you can safely and conveniently search and find your perfect soul mate, while experiencing a different level of fun and thrill.. Thousands of dating ads of singles that are looking for dating romance, intimacy and friendship is available for you to browse through. Among them will be your ideal companion, thus bringing dating to new frontiers, making a lot of impossibilities with great results and very possible!

Julia Tanner
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How to get ex back with law of attraction

March 9th, 2010

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Once you learn about the law of attraction you will want to apply it to all of your everyday needs. You need to be sure that you are thinking about what you need to do and use these references to make others aware of the possibilities with the law of attraction. This is just another reason why it is so pillar of society for us to think about what we are doing before we make the mistakes that are usually life changing to some.There are plenty of things that you can do to make things go the way that you want them to. Law of Attraction

You are not going to be successful if you are not using your mind to be positive. the secret law of attraction .

This will only make you feel true about yourself and you will not be healthy to have the positive feelings that are needed to have self respect. You will need to think about the way that you can use the law of attraction to improve the way that you feel about yourself.

With so much information available on the law of Attraction it is easy to get overwhelmed. You may be feeling that you don’t quite know some ideas on how to put all the pieces of the puzzle together, or that there is a bit of the puzzle missing altogether! This article will answer any questions you may have, but most importantly, this article will show you some ideas on how to apply the Law of Attraction in your life, starting today. Everyone will fall on hard times but the absolute thing to do is not to let it get you down. You will need to focus on the task, but you also need to pay attention to all the other aspects of your life or the universe will pull your entire like out of whack. Then you have to choice to let go of the negative feelings and think about the ways that the positive energy will affect you. attraction forum .

You will want to keep in mind that criticism doesn’t always have to be negative either.Also, you have to think about ways that you can give yourself the appropriate time and energy to change as potently. Are there problems that make it hard for you to love the person that you are in a relationship with? some ideas on how to apply law of attraction .

You will be out-and-out to break your habits with step two and once you have released that energy, you will feel like a completely different person. You should determine your life by the experiences that you go through.

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In order to create your dreams you need to have goals set in place and this can be done with the law of attraction. Being positive and knowing that you can make intimate happen is the going to be the extravagant way to make things happen in life that you are usually proud of. You have to be willing to go after what you want and know that it is going to take time. ">Law of Attraction

Sam Tylor
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