Being Kind in a Relationship Goes a Long Way

February 19th, 2010 | by admin |

Kindness is something that is often forgotten in a relationship. As we progress in our relationships and get more comfortable with our partners we tend to forget about the simple things that show we really care. We start to assume we no longer need to show our love and that our partner simply just knows we love them. Being kind in a relationship can go along way, though.

Many relationship problems stem from getting too comfortable. We start to forget about our partner and no longer seek to gain their approval, because we already have it. This comfort level can lead to some very bad behavior.

We start to forget what respect and kindness can mean to our partner. We start to take for granted that they will let us slide by without any gesture of love or kindness. When the kindness goes out of a relationship it opens doors for behaviors that are less then desirable. This can spell big trouble for a relationship.

Being kind in a relationship is about showing the other person you respect them. Kindness is something you choose, so it really says something about how you feel about your partner. Kindness comes form love and so by being kind in a relationship you are also showing love.

Kindness helps people to feel like they are valuable. It makes them feel cared for and like they really mean something to you. Being kind in a relationship means being attentive, supportive, understanding and honored. It is also protective. It is a way to keep your partner feeling good and happy.

Kindness can be shown in many different ways. It can be shown through words or actions. It can be how you approach them or how you tackle an issue between you. It can be something simple like picking up after them or doing something small for them. Kindness can show through in even the smallest of ways, but its impact can be huge.

Being kind is about thinking kind. You have to actually work to be kind. It is not something that really comes naturally. You have to be very attentive in order to show kindness. It takes some work, but it well worth it when you consider all it can do for a relationship.

Kindness in a relationship can really help strength the relationship. It can help make the bond between partners stronger. It can help to revive love and make the relationship that much better. Kindness can do many things and it really isn’t that hard to input a little kindness into your interactions with your partner on a daily basis. You will soon find the many benefits of kindness make it well worth the effort.

Jane Saeman
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/being-kind-in-a-relationship-goes-a-long-way-134054.html

  1. 4 Responses to “Being Kind in a Relationship Goes a Long Way”

  2. By dot dot dot on Feb 19, 2010 | Reply

    Can I get your opinion on this relationship? (kind of long question)?
    Well, my best friend started dating this boy a couple months ago (she’s 15, so am I, he’s 16 or 17). When she started being in a relationship with him, she started becoming secretive and ignoring my calls and now she doesn’t talk to me and comes up with all these reasons why I ruined her life (it really makes no sense — it wasn’t an issue before this guy asked her out).

    I’m not sure exactly HOW long they were dating before the hickeys started, but it was definitely way less than a month. They started saying ‘I love you’ after only a week. Every time I see her, she has more hickeys. They’re always bigger and darker each time. They are together almost every day, unsupervised and downstairs in her room alone. When they are at his house, I’m sure they’re alone too. She goes over there all the time, and she stays until really late at night (like 11pm) and same when he goes to her house.

    When I tried confronting her about it is when the trouble started, and now she won’t even speak to me and says we can’t be friends.

    I just want to know your basic opinion of what is going on? It seems like she is just trying to show off. Her AIM profile is plastered with his name and "LOVE!" all over the place, and her away messages always include his name. She cannot be seen ANYWHERE without holding his hand and it’s impossible to spot her without a hickey anymore. Usually they go all the way down her shirt and are in the front of her neck — they don’t make any effort to hide them at all [in fact, one day she had one on her shoulder and wore a shoulderless shirt just to show it off].

    Thank you for reading thus far lol, I know it’s really long and I’m sorry. I’m just worried because she is absolutely not herself and I’m worried she’s gonna get into sex at only 15. Has this ever happened to any of you? And what was your experience with it? Do you think she will ever stop being so crazy over this boy/want to be friends with me again? We were the absolute CLOSEST best friends for about four years.

    Please, I really need input, I’ve been so depressed over the loss of this friend I’ve been needing to go to hospitals/therapists/psychiatrists. I miss her :[

  3. By Mel C on Feb 19, 2010 | Reply

    that is depressing, but maybe hes been forcing things on her. try to find a lone time with her, explain to her that you NEED it. talk to her about the relationship. as for her honesty. and then forget about it the rest of the night and go have fun. you neeeeed it.
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  4. By Soni G on Feb 19, 2010 | Reply

    maybe she wants to be with her boyfriend alone don’t get involved otherwise you will get the blame just be patient
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  5. By James on Feb 19, 2010 | Reply

    Just try and be there for her, that’s all you can do. He just wants her for sex, so they WILL have sex, if they haven’t already. When he dumps her (he WILL dump her), she’ll see what a good friend you’ve been, she’ll apologize and your relationship will heal. Just be patient. Help her when he hurts her. She won’t see what he is untill it’s too late. The hardest part is doing nothing, it’ll kill you. Be strong, for her.
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    I’ve known people like this in the past, I’ve seen it happen.

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