How a Rebound Relationship Can Work in Your Favor

March 12th, 2010 | by admin |

If you’ve broken up with your girlfriend and she’s in a rebound relationship, how do you get her back?

A rebound relationship is one where she’s dating someone in an attempt to get over you.  Rebound relationships helps keep people from having to face the emotions of going through a breakup.  Those types of relationships are used to help girls move on from their real love.

And that’s the key to getting back with her.  She is in a rebound relationship to deal with the fact she’s not with you.

It really doesn’t matter why she lost you.  It does not matter if it’s her fault or yours.  And it actually doesn’t matter you called off the relationship.  What really matters is that you have a real love.

Because almost all the relationships that are founded on real, true love can be saved.

If she is in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what’s wrong with the relationship between you and her.  She’ll most likely be hanging out with a “bad boy” if you were a “good guy”.  If you were into gaming and sports, he’ll probably be into something completely different.

The fact that she’s focusing on your style is great for you for 2 reasons.  Her attention is still on you even though she’s with another guy.  And, it’ll give you a chance to see what she is looking for.

If she is going out with a guy that’s completely different from, it means she is missing something from the relationship she had with you.  You can use the time you have to improve yourself while she’s with the “rebound guy”.

Let her rebound relationship take its course.  As she spends time with the other guy, she will start seeing his flaws.  After a few weeks with the rebound guy, she’ll start missing you.

That’s why you shouldn’t just crawl back to her.  Let her develop the idea that she misses you and the good things about the relationship.  When she is ready to come back, welcome her.  Be the best boyfriend that you can be, but make sure you don’t do the chasing.

Here are a few steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

1.  Don’t try to persuade her or convince her that you’re the love of her life.  She need to discover this on her own.

2.  Don’t keep apologizing to her.  If you did something terrible, tell her you’re sorry once.  And then move on.  She knows the real reason why she’s with you and why she is in love with you.

3.  Don’t start making promises to her that you will change.  You are who you are and that is why she loves you.

4.  Don’t try to convince her that the breakup wasn’t your fault.  She’ll appreciate that over time.  But only if you haven’t made her spend time and energy defending that it wasn’t her fault.

5.  Make sure you don’t beg her to take you back.

When your ex starts dating someone else after a break up, she’s in a rebound relationship.  You can get her back and make up with her.  But don’t worry.  The rebound relationship is a great sign that she is still in love with you.

Tony Smith
http://www.articlesbase.com/breakup-articles/how-a-rebound-relationship-can-work-in-your-favor-731031.html

  1. 3 Responses to “How a Rebound Relationship Can Work in Your Favor”

  2. By Koreena on Mar 12, 2010 | Reply

    Why would I hold onto love when it's hopeless and it hurts so much? please answer, will return the favor :) ?
    I’ve loved a guy for a while. We used to go out– last year, for about two months. He was my first relationship, my first love. We broke up because we couldn’t see each other and it was a mistake, but we remained friends and talked all night and day and we had a lot of fun. We still openly liked one another, but I couldn’t go out with him, not yet. I just wasn’t ready for a relationship at the time…

    A month or so later, when school got back in, he had a girlfriend and blah blah, but I still liked him and he knew it. Later he and his girlfriend broke up (she broke up with him) and a bit after that (I wasn’t his rebound) he asked me out. I liked him so of course I said yes. That relationship lasted a week and I asked him why he broke up with me– "because I just lost the feelings for ya" he said.

    I was a bit mad but three days later we were all good again– as friends :(

    Now, four months after that, I still love him and he has a girlfriend. He said he likes me a little and thinks I’m REALLY cute… We’re really close friends and it’s like we’re going out already, but without the kissing I guess. I hug him a lot and he plays with me and teases and flirts and all that…

    Oh and after we broke up the second time, I started to deny that I liked him, thinking eventually my feelings would go away and I could move on, but it didn’t work and then a few weeks ago he probed me nonstop until I finally told him who I liked– him. Why would he want to know so badly, btw? I asked him, and he said he was just curious… :/

    So, I really do want to let go of my love for him if it’s going to be hopeless. But I’ve tried so many things and it just won’t go away. Do you think I’m hanging on to it (unconsciously) because he’s my first ever love? Because I think I won’t find anyone like him again? I’ve tried fooling myself into thinking I like other guys, but I’m still not sure… :/

    Does "I like you a little and think you’re REALLY cute" mean I should wait until his current relationship ends? I really didn’t intend on telling him my feelings for him while he was in a relationship, btw. It just happened…

    I’ve never wanted to get married or anything, but I can really picture having a life with this person, and no one else…

    Ahh!! Frustration… ><

    Well, link your question and I’ll try to answer if I can :)

  3. By powerhouse on Mar 12, 2010 | Reply

    If i were you i’d move on, if this guy really wanted you he’s had plenty of time to do something about it and he has’nt, so thats ur answer, forget him and find someone more worthy of your love.
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  4. By J on Mar 12, 2010 | Reply

    Hey Koreena,
    I know what it’s like to have a first love. And I also know what it’s like to move on from that first love and find something even better. I still think about my first love (the guy that I lost my virginity to) from time to time but I have moved on.

    The wishy-washiness of your current status is a bit concerning. I’m all for a simple and direct approach: if you are in love, be together. Why complicate things?

    It seems like you really love this guy, and for the time being I would try to work it out. Would you be able to talk to him and evaluate the relationship? Pour your heart out to him, let him know how much you love him. Tell him that you want to be with him for longer than just a few months. This means you committing to him and him committing to you. If you believe that this is your true love, then don’t give up on it. But don’t underestimate your ability to fall out of love with someone, because that’s part of reality, too.

    I hope that you work things out with your guy, good luck hun!

    Would you be able to help me out with my relationship issue? I haven’t gotten a lot of answers and I REALLY need advice :( …

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Av_gtl8nyVsliTsHP8nIu67sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100306124408AADSrIq
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